Written by Chris Josh
You should never tolerate blatant disrespect. Many times, people are afraid to speak up for themselves because they fear it may damage or worse, end the friendship or relationship. Perhaps it starts to get awkward and the other person changes their behavior towards the one who was disrespected by pulling back their energy.
Sometimes people just can’t fathom being alone. And the fear stems from not being alone for a prolonged period of time. Instead of worrying about losing the other person for stating your boundaries, you should be worried about losing yourself - your self-respect, your self-esteem, and your confidence.
Being a doormat or someone’s piñata isn’t going to make them like you. In fact, they’re just going to objectify you and not even consider you as a human being. You’ll just be their outlet to release their frustrations on. You’ll be the one they get a laugh out of at your own expense.
They’ll feel superior because you’re letting them get away with their unacceptable behavior. It also increases their self-esteem because they figure they must be in superior to you if you’re willing to weather their disrespect.
You are the most important person in your reality. If you lose your self-respect, then you’re automatically going to lose respect from others. And if you’re a guy and your confidence takes a hit, you’re going to be unattractive to the ladies. And for the women reading this blog, you need your self-respect, confidence, and self-esteem too, so that you can attract a man who will honor you, take you seriously, and not mistreat you.
If you have low self-respect, low self-esteem, and low confidence, it’s going to be written all over your face and your body language will broadcast it as well. This will let other people know how to treat you and whether or not they should take you seriously.
Don’t lose yourself trying to save friendships and relationships. It’s infinitely better to be alone for a while until you meet the right people who will see your worth from the get-go.
Your homework: Write down 3 boundaries that you will enforce from now on and that you will never budge on.
Let me know in the comments what your number one boundary is.
31 comments
I will only allow men to talk to me who treat me with respect.
I will stop allowing my loved ones to take advantage of me.
I am grateful to help people. I don’t want to be lied to and feel used. I’m tired of people only contacting me because they want something from me. I want them to genuinely care about me. I genuinely care about them.
If their actions do not support their words.
I will no longer let anyone in my household make fun of me, put me down earn insult me anymore