Written by Chris Josh
You should never tolerate blatant disrespect. Many times, people are afraid to speak up for themselves because they fear it may damage or worse, end the friendship or relationship. Perhaps it starts to get awkward and the other person changes their behavior towards the one who was disrespected by pulling back their energy.
Sometimes people just can’t fathom being alone. And the fear stems from not being alone for a prolonged period of time. Instead of worrying about losing the other person for stating your boundaries, you should be worried about losing yourself - your self-respect, your self-esteem, and your confidence.
Being a doormat or someone’s piñata isn’t going to make them like you. In fact, they’re just going to objectify you and not even consider you as a human being. You’ll just be their outlet to release their frustrations on. You’ll be the one they get a laugh out of at your own expense.
They’ll feel superior because you’re letting them get away with their unacceptable behavior. It also increases their self-esteem because they figure they must be in superior to you if you’re willing to weather their disrespect.
You are the most important person in your reality. If you lose your self-respect, then you’re automatically going to lose respect from others. And if you’re a guy and your confidence takes a hit, you’re going to be unattractive to the ladies. And for the women reading this blog, you need your self-respect, confidence, and self-esteem too, so that you can attract a man who will honor you, take you seriously, and not mistreat you.
If you have low self-respect, low self-esteem, and low confidence, it’s going to be written all over your face and your body language will broadcast it as well. This will let other people know how to treat you and whether or not they should take you seriously.
Don’t lose yourself trying to save friendships and relationships. It’s infinitely better to be alone for a while until you meet the right people who will see your worth from the get-go.
Your homework: Write down 3 boundaries that you will enforce from now on and that you will never budge on.
Let me know in the comments what your number one boundary is.
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In heated discussions, this is how I handle disrespect.
1. When someone close to me raises their voice at me in a conversation to make a point, I call them out and ask them to stop. If they continue it again, the conversation ends and I leave the room.
2. The same goes for phone conversations. Bullying is off-limits.
3. Passive Aggressive Comments are also a red flag. When someone continues talking to me after I walk away with snide comments, I turn around and face them, look at them in their eyes, and ask them if they have any more to say to my face. Nine times out of ten, they don’t. There is that one occasion sometimes.
Chris, I’m reading “City of Serpents.” This is my first book. My very dear friend purchased these four books for me to read. I found you by following you on TikTok. Chris, I want to thank you for sharing your story. I want to thank you for intuiting your messages to the masses. Words cannot express the depth of gratitude that I have.
Moreover, I am receiving enlightenment through your book(s). The strength it took you to get here is immeasurable. Your story blows my mind. I’ve had to sit your book down and truly wrap my head around what you went through. May you continue to be blessed.
Not letting someone tell me not to do something I feel like doing/want to do.
I learned that a long time ago. Becoming more self-aware practicando self-love and developing myself holistically.
Very prudent and wise words Chris.
God bless you 🙏
Have strong morals but understand that others don’t always have the same morals as you do.
The energy is off. Run and never look back!!