Written by Chris Josh
You should never tolerate blatant disrespect. Many times, people are afraid to speak up for themselves because they fear it may damage or worse, end the friendship or relationship. Perhaps it starts to get awkward and the other person changes their behavior towards the one who was disrespected by pulling back their energy.
Sometimes people just can’t fathom being alone. And the fear stems from not being alone for a prolonged period of time. Instead of worrying about losing the other person for stating your boundaries, you should be worried about losing yourself - your self-respect, your self-esteem, and your confidence.
Being a doormat or someone’s piñata isn’t going to make them like you. In fact, they’re just going to objectify you and not even consider you as a human being. You’ll just be their outlet to release their frustrations on. You’ll be the one they get a laugh out of at your own expense.
They’ll feel superior because you’re letting them get away with their unacceptable behavior. It also increases their self-esteem because they figure they must be in superior to you if you’re willing to weather their disrespect.
You are the most important person in your reality. If you lose your self-respect, then you’re automatically going to lose respect from others. And if you’re a guy and your confidence takes a hit, you’re going to be unattractive to the ladies. And for the women reading this blog, you need your self-respect, confidence, and self-esteem too, so that you can attract a man who will honor you, take you seriously, and not mistreat you.
If you have low self-respect, low self-esteem, and low confidence, it’s going to be written all over your face and your body language will broadcast it as well. This will let other people know how to treat you and whether or not they should take you seriously.
Don’t lose yourself trying to save friendships and relationships. It’s infinitely better to be alone for a while until you meet the right people who will see your worth from the get-go.
Your homework: Write down 3 boundaries that you will enforce from now on and that you will never budge on.
Let me know in the comments what your number one boundary is.
31 comments
After reading your story about people have effect on our lives.i am reading my Bible snd seeing that even the prophets and kings that were anointed by God were attacked what was to be accomplished. King David wrote about this in the book of Psalms. But his love for God was much deeper then the ones who said “You can’t so even try” Or Joseph when betrayed by his brothers. People who have no motivation will always keep you at their level in life or lower. So my friends you pull up your boot straps and ask God to help you to keep going and not be a quitter. Look what happened in the 2024 Election. That is perfect example of God motivating us not to surrender. We thank God for that!
After reading your story about people have effect on our lives.i am reading my Bible snd seeing that even the prophets and kings that were anointed by God were attacked what was to be accomplished. King David wrote about this in the book of Psalms. But his love for God was much deeper then the ones who said “You can’t so even try” Or Joseph when betrayed by his brothers. People who have no motivation will always sleep you at their level in life or lower. So my friends you pull up your boot straps and ask God to help you to keep going and not be a quitter. Look what happened in the 2024 Election. That is perfect example of God motivating us not to surrender. We thank God for that!
People pleasing 🚫🚯👎⛔️🚫
Thank you Chris for sharing everything you have been sharing. You are truly a gift and very much appreciated. I feel so hopeful knowing that one’s memory does come back and a person can return to functioning again. HOPE ! May you soon find the respectful love of a good woman and have real , true children who will love and respect you. Let go of your fake “family” and move on in the belief that this will happen and discard the woman and her children who will only destroy you ! I will be purchasing your books soon.
Always be true to yourself and believe in yourself 😀😀