Written by Chris Josh
One person to watch out for is the one who believes nothing you say. While it’s natural to think that a person may have trust issues, and maybe some people you encounter do have trust issues. However, the type of person I’m talking about is the one who’s projecting.
When a person is honest, they usually believe what others say to a certain degree. And the opposite is true. When a person is a compulsive liar, he or she assumes everyone else is just like them and can’t be trusted.
With the person having trust issues, that’s not your problem. You don’t need to entertain someone who doesn’t trust you, regardless of their situation. After all, what’s the point of being in a relationship or friendship and you’re viewed as a liar?
Back to the type of person I need you to watch out for. The liar who’s projecting on to you. I’ve seen this with my own eyes many, many times. No matter how good your track record is when it comes to honesty, they will always be skeptical of you.
And that’s your queue to part ways because that person always turned out to be a backstabber from my experience. They would be skeptical of tiny things and they would even lie about the smallest things themselves. Again, the reason they think you’d be lying about something minor is because that’s what they do. They’re telling on themselves.
You’ve been warned. This type of person can’t be trusted. Don’t be fooled by their charm.
They will leave you feeling like you're a criminal who can't be trusted. You'll always try prove yourself to this type of person that you're trustworthy. And you'll feel like no matter what you do or say, it's never enough to gain their trust. You'll even start doubting yourself and feel un-credible. This will affect your confidence and self-esteem.
Now, the other type of person - the one who has trust issues may not be a liar but they will always treat you like you’re guilty and not a credible person. Either way, it’s best to let these two types of people go. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship and friendship where you are trusted and respected.
Do you know anyone like the two described?
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Now that you mention it, there are people who I have been in contact with who project that I am lying and they obviously do. I am not on contact with them anymore because they make me question my own self worth. I do not need them bring problems into my life. Thanks for your insight. I appreciate it.
Unfortunately you become a product of the environment you are in. With social media and digital devices the stigma once applied is virtually impossible to shift. Once you are labelled people never will give you your credentials back. Why would you. If this makes you feel better, or even superior. It’s life. I find personally accepting your own contributions that may of given people the ingredients to cook you. If this is out of your control and fabricated I like to cook a new person learning the source of projection. Serve a defence system protecting your Health, until that one is Eaten then start again. There is little you can do to change people. People are Great teachers. Enjoying City of Serpents 2nd edition. Only on Chapter 5. People cannot see what you see or never say anything until it happens to them. Courage is scarce.
Yes! The father of my boys is a habitual liar and when I was still with him many years ago he would try to make me believe that I was cheating at work while he was the one cheating while I was at work 😊 Amongst other things I’d express to him and he’d just turn around and make me look crazy for it. Yeah I have a few family members too like this. Thank you
I work with someone that you’ve described, my supervisor. I’m praying to be released from this position.
One day I’ll learn to proofread my comments and messages LOL
I meant reflect on my own behavior***