Written by Chris Josh
You constantly think about them and you miss them.
And...it probably confuses you because you remember how badly they treated you and you know exactly why you left.
So you're probably thinking, "why do I still feel the pain?"
Here's what's really going on here.
You're not really missing the actual person - you're missing the version of them you first met.
You know...the one who was sweet when you first met them in the beginning?
The one who showed you glimpses of who they could be. Yeah - about that...you fell in love with the potential and the promise - not the real person.
The person you hoped they'd become. But that version was never the real deal. It was just a little performance/act, not reality.
So when you grieve, you're grieving someone who never really existed. And that's why it feels impossible to let go.
A part of you wishes that's who the person really is.
Keep this in mind - all you're doing is you're holding onto a hope, not the person you thought they were.
Call out what you're really missing. Right now. Say it with your chest, "I miss who I hoped that person was, not who they actually were."
Recall the real memory. And then let that real memory override the idealized memory.
Every time you miss the good version of that person, remember everything about them in totality - not just the tiny snippets of good moments.
And keep this in mind, you're allowed to grieve the hope that turned out to be just that - just don't make excuses for them.
They showed you their true colors. Believe them.
Rest assured you will find what you're looking for when you stop looking for it.
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The Author: Chris Josh
Chris Josh helps people heal from hard times and feel better about themselves. He teaches simple ways to change how you think and talk to yourself every day.
Chris shows you how to break old habits, build confidence, and feel safe again. He also helps people unblock their money and remove what's stopping them from earning more.
His tools are easy to use and really work. He mixes mind science, spiritual ideas, and small daily actions that anyone can do.
His books give you real steps you can start using right away…no fancy words or confusing ideas. Just practical help for becoming the person you want to be.