The Costs of High-Stress Relationships

Written by Chris Josh

Have you ever been in a high-stress relationship or are in one now? It’s brutal. It’s a never-ending waiting game to see if things improve.

As you wait and wait...AND WAIT - the relationship is costing you your mental health, physical health, creativity, and finances - just to name a few.

It’s completely normal to have rough time periods in a relationship. We don’t always get along with our partner. And sometimes they do things we don’t agree with or they do things that annoy us.

Most often than not, the things that really stress people out in a relationship are when the other person is showing a lack of respect and empathy.

Other times, it’s infidelity.

Sometimes, your partner’s family is staying over for a week or two.

Whatever the reason is, you must know when to cut your losses and move on.

Sure, you want to work things out and see if the honeymoon phase returns. However, that rarely ever happens.

The things that keep many people in high-stress relationships, just to name a few, are the time already invested in the relationship and the fear of being alone.

However, by staying in a miserable relationship, you are paying a very high cost. Your mental and physical health will take a toll.

I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist, as I detail in my book, ‘City of Serpents.’ I didn’t know she was a covert narcissist until divine intervention happened.

I lost 99% of my memory and as a result; I wasn’t able to have conversations with anyone because I would lose my train of thought after just one sentence and I’d forget what the other person had just said.

I lost the brain faculty responsible for deciding. And as a result, I literally couldn’t decide if I wanted fries with that when the fast-food employee asked me.

I was a nervous wreck and in severe mental and emotional pain. I had muscle spasms all over my body and because of that, I couldn’t even walk at times.

Why did I put up with that situation? We had kids together. But one day it occurred to me I was useless to my children because of the physical and brain impairments.

That’s when I had to decide. Am I going to continue to dwindle in this pathetic relationship, where I’m useless to my own children? Or will I cut my losses short and walk away for good?

I walked away and never looked back. It wasn’t easy, but it was absolutely necessary.

After some time, my memory was back to normal and I am now able to make complicated decisions in a split second. The muscle spasms are gone. The racy thoughts are non-existent. And I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

My creativity is better than ever. My productivity shot through the roof. And my self-esteem, self-respect, and confidence are exceptional.

After I left that situation, I went on to write 6 books and an audio program called, ‘Mindset Magic.’

The fact of the matter is, if the source of the stress is the other person, then nothing will change until they have an epiphany and willingly decide they want to change.

Sadly enough though, most people don’t want to chance and will never change.

Truth be told, you’re far better off being single and stress-free. Your quality of life will surge - as long as you learn to live on your own and heal any co-dependency you may have.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, you can still turn things around. I was in the worst position of my life when I was 42 years old. When I filed for divorce, the court gave her the house and the business I built. And worst of all, my children were convinced to never talk to me again.

Fast forward 3 years later. I built a new foundation for myself and I have zero regrets regarding the past.

Have you ever been in a high-stress relationship? What kind of impact did it have on your mental and physical health? Did your brain slow down? Did your finances suffer?