Written by Chris Josh
The worst time to look for a relationship is when you're feeling lonely. Why? Because you'll choose the wrong person almost 100% of the time.
This is because you'll miss the red flags or simply disregard them altogether in order to lock the person down.
You'll also settle for the first person who shows you any interest.
It's a lot like grocery shopping on an empty, growling stomach. You almost always end up spending way more than you intended and you buy more junk food than you had liked to.
So what should you do? You should address your co-dependency issue:
- Learn to love yourself more.
- Establish a self-care routine if you haven't done so already.
- Find a hobby or two.
- Read 30 minutes a day.
- Meditate 15 minutes a day.
- Recite your affirmations throughout the day.
- Write down your goals.
- Write down your manifestations.
Get in the habit of smiling on the inside and outside more. Look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, "I love you!"
It won't be long before you start to cherish your own company and that serene, beautiful peace.
Cease the seeking of a relationship altogether and watch how you eventually magnetize the right person who is going to respect and value you.
We've all been lonely at one point or another, including myself. And I made a HUGE mistake by getting into a terrible relationship all because I didn't want to be alone. I missed ALL the red flags. That's ok though. You live and you learn.
Hopefully, you and I don't repeat any of our mistakes.
Has this happened to you? Have you ended up with a toxic person because you were eagerly looking for someone to keep you company? Let me know in the comments section.
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Frank Samosari
April 23, 2025Therefore, my brother Chris can you help me find out about this and can I let go of this or can take her back bcos we have a child that still needing her mum? So I want an answer from you as soon as possible.
Thank you for your help and support me to return my wife or how can I get a new relationship with a new one?
I remain waiting for your advice ASAP.
Thank you
Cheers
Your active follower
Frank Samosari
Angela Brownlee
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February 11, 2025Kim
January 30, 2025Great post ! Thanks for sharing! Very blessed to be on a healing journey of self discovery. So happy so many people are sharing their personal struggles with the world.
Thanks Chris for your posts!
Vera
January 30, 2025Naana Mettle
January 29, 2025Sherry Serrano
October 29, 2024I’ve only had one person that after my accident showed me through showing me the “red flags” that I not only could still love and give the best of me .
However, I couldn’t keep up with his life constant validation of the people around him .
Had to be on point , pretty enough etc
About 4 months into the relationship he looked at me after I had sang to a lot of our friends ( we are in same town ) that he actually looked at me and said “ you know you are pretty” .
I was like WTH ?!
I kept it in .
I shortly broke up with him because it hit me so hard .
I’m not the same and I’m not just arm candy or someone that needs to find love in the wrong places.
It was up to me to do all the work . A person that truly loves you they will look for the things your lacking and they will accommodate . Both sides not just one . 🐬
Sherry Serrano
October 29, 2024I’ve only had one person that after my accident showed me through showing me the “red flags” that I not only could still love and give the best of me .
However, I couldn’t keep up with his life constant validation of the people around him .
Had to be on point , pretty enough etc
About 4 months into the relationship he looked at me after I had sang to a lot of our friends ( we are in same town ) that he actually looked at me and said “ you know you are pretty” .
I was like WTH ?!
I kept it in .
I shortly broke up with him because it hit me so hard .
I’m not the same and I’m not just arm candy or someone that needs to find love in the wrong places.
It was up to me to do all the work . A person that truly loves you they will look for the things your lacking and they will accommodate . Both sides not just one . 🐬
jill
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