Written by Chris Josh
Choose the people who choose you.
That applies to romantic and platonic situations. Choose the people who choose you.
You may not choose everyone that chooses you, perhaps because a person’s values don’t align with yours. For instance, a person who chooses you to be a platonic friend may not be a good fit for you because he’s in a violent gang or is a drug dealer.
The point is not to chase after people who aren’t interested in you because in the end you’re going to try so hard to win them over and they’ll never see your worth. As soon as you recognize the person isn’t interested in you, move on.
Now let’s say you’re a guy and you’re interested in a woman, but she doesn’t choose you. She’s not really a fan of you. But after persisting for months, she finally lets you take her out on an expensive date. And she lets you buy her a Louis Vuitton bag because you want to impress her, hoping she suddenly becomes really attracted to you.
Now she’ll let you continue taking her on expensive dates until the guy she really wants asks her out and then she ghosts you and you’re sitting there going, “but I did so much for her! This is how she repays me? Where’s the loyalty?”
The solution is to choose from the women who choose you. If a woman is showing you great interest and is a big fan of yours, that’s the woman you want to invest in. It doesn’t mean you’re going to be lovebirds till the end of times, but at least you have great odds with a happy relationship.
Now, if you’re a woman, you must understand that women are programmed to want the guy who doesn’t want them, especially if other women want him. Not always, but in a lot of cases. The man is running away from the woman because he’s not interested in her, but she keeps throwing herself at him and contacting him so he figures, “why not play her like a fool? I got her wrapped around my finger. I’ll use her for a good time and ghost her.”
As a woman, you must correct this by understanding that choosing a man who doesn’t choose you only hurts you in the end. The moral of the story? Choose from all those guys who are hounding you down for a date.
18 comments
Thank you for the awesome teaching. Helps me alot.
This was a good read. Makes a lot of sense to me. Especially the part of choosing friends within your interests and goal oriented. If course I don’t think any woman wants to feel she’s chasing after a man who’s not choosing her, it would make that woman feel foolish in the end, unless she’s just an out right psychopath lol 😊
Some people ain’t mutrue enough to be honest in the first place about what they want from the relationship. I’ve always been a realistic and straightforward person from the start. I don’t have bad feelings towards any of my ex’s and visa versa. I’m single and happy but would love to find that intense passionate caring strong and forever long relationship whos not idiomatic. Who don’t want love!!.
Great . It’s practically correct.
Amazing POV. I prepared myself to be totally independent of any relationships as a response to impermanence. I don’t need anybody to choose me, I chose myself a long time ago and I’m always choosing myself everytime because I can never control anybody except myself only. Universal laws.